abuse

Sexual Abuse

If you have been sexually abused in the past you are probably very aware of how your life has been impacted by the abuse.

It may feel very difficult to conceive of coming to counselling about your past abuse and for many survivors of abuse; it can take some time into their counselling, for them to feel comfortable and safe enough to mention it.

Whether you bring your abuse in on the first day or choose to hold it back until you feel ready, you will be met with acceptance, understanding, patience and encouragement.

As your counsellor, I will be alongside you as you begin your journey towards a more healed existence.

For more information or if you would like to make and appointment:

Carlow Counselling   086 4063043

Communication with a strong or abusive person

Communication with a strong/abusive partner or parent
Communication with a strong/abusive child
Communication with a strong/abusive person in work.

How we communicate with strong abusive people very much depends on our personal boundary. If we have a strong personal boundary, somebody with a strong abusive personality will not impact on us a great deal because we are contained within ourselves and have what is termed an ‘inner locus of control’. We may find this type of personality difficult to be around but they will not overpower us or make us question ourselves or manipulate us. Somebody who is abusive may be very angry inside and unfortunately it’s easier to externalise their anger instead of looking inside themselves at where their anger is rooted.

In essence then, communication with a strong abusive type personality will be more difficult if we are not sure of who we are and what we represent and most important of all; our self-worth. If we are not sure about our worth then an abusive, bullying personality will more easily convince us of our lack of worth.

Being around bullying and abusive behaviours is very unpleasant but if you need to communicate with a person like this you will do so more effectively when they are not getting their desired reactions; Compliance, Fear and Power.

At Insights Counselling Carlow, you will be facilitated as you look at the relationship, be it work related, a family member or a friend. We can explore how you feel about yourself and consequently, how you represent yourself and behave, in relationships. We can look at the origins of these behaviours and any elements of your relational self which you feel you would benefit in developing.