Separation – Divorce
The end of a relationship comes with a complex set of emotions such as denial, anger, guilt, rejection, sadness, regret, depression and anxiety. These are all normal reactions and the sequence and intensity of these emotions can vary depending on whether you were the one to initiate the separation or the one who has been left.
In either case it can be difficult to know how to move on and what to do next and there may be a lot of mixed feelings and uncertainty, which can be very stressful.
Some people will feel deep down that their relationship is not salvageable, that there is no hope in trying to stay together.
It is natural to want to ignore these feelings at first, as any alternative to being together is too hard to contemplate.
Little by little it becomes harder to avoid recognising that the relationship is irretrievable and sadly, this is sometimes a one-sided awareness – the other person in the relationship may not share the same feelings or want to talk about separating.
At Insights Counselling Carlow, I am trained to work with the emotional impact of separation and divorce.
Here you will find the help you need to express the huge range of feelings, the anger, the hurt, the sadness, the confusion and the fear.
You will find the support to help you through the difficult and complex emotional process until you feel ready to move on.
Sarah Sutton. MIACP
If you are contemplating counselling and would like to know more about how I work, you can phone/text me now at: 086 4063043
Alcoholism & Other Addiction in a Family Member
When a member of your family is in addiction i.e. alcoholism, drug abuse, gambling, sex addiction, food addiction, etc; it can really feel like an emotional rollercoaster.
Feelings of frustration, anger and hurt can be a daily occurrence.
It can be hurtful and very difficult to understand when your loved one continues to place alcohol/drugs/food etc before you and others in your family.
Loving somebody who is in addiction can vastly affect our own self- esteem, causing depression, anxiety and sometimes, feelings of hopelessness.
If you feel you would like to talk to someone, about how you are affected by addiction in your family, Counselling Carlow can provide a safe, confidential space where you will be heard, understood, and validated.
When a loved one is in addiction we can tend to focus a huge amount on them and their addictive behaviours.
At Counselling Carlow, you will be encouraged towards bringing that focus inwards, onto you; looking at how you can nurture and take better care of yourself.